Children are witnessing transformative experiences daily. They are sensitive and receptive to the thoughts of others about them and often out-picture their parents’ fears. Our kids are tedious observers and prestigious interns of their environments.
The brains of children develop at different stages. Young kids’ brains operate in a “Theta” state during infancy. Their minds are formed during this “transformational” state. In the “Theta” development phase, children learn by observing their environment’s actions, thoughts, and moods. It is common for children to attract what radiates in their periphery.
Kids are constantly being programmed and deprogrammed with information. As parents, we must be aware and exercise the utmost caution in guiding our future generation. Television, “Telling Lies Through Their Vision,” can cause debauchery or lack of principles in our youth, if we don’t safeguard what they witness.
Being a Father is a noble honor, and I enjoy being a Father to my children alongside my awesome wife. I don’t take for granted the needed structure of two parents actively engaged in every home. Indeed, single mother and father households often turn out productive citizens, but I can only imagine there are times when that can pose challenges.
My wife and I are always trying to remain present, so our young children are highly receptive to our emotional state. Sometimes, energy is “inscrutable, but energy is always “mutable.” Before energy shows its physical state, it is first constructed in one’s thoughts. Energy radiates from and through the body into the ether and is always “felt.”
I’m sure you have experienced walking into a room, and you could “feel” the energy vibrating as either tension or peace. This God-given sensory orientation allows one to detect and disseminate energetic frequency vibrations.
The Law of Correspondence allows one to understand things that would otherwise be unknowable. “As within, so without; As above, so below; As below, so above.” When emotions are high in the household, emotions can be present in the child. If there is love and peace in the home, feelings of love and stability can be found in the child. If there is constant sickness, depression, and doubt in the house, you may have a sickly child that appears insecure and withdrawn.
Emotions are feelings that we all possess in our own right. As parents, we need to be conscious of our emotions to teach our children the “mature way” to handle their emotions. We must remain mutable in our expansion of ways to help our children understand their feelings. The first course of action for parents to teach children correctly must include proper preparing ourselves.
In our home, my wife and I have transcended into profitable ways of handling and dealing with personal emotions. Both of us quickly apologize when we have said something hurtful. We are learning humility’s critical role in expressing “how we feel’. For example, should I wake in the morning feeling happy or sad, I’d say it when embracing my wife’s presence in the room. Also, should either of us have had a bad day, we find it healthy to state the emotion and let it be. Instances like these have undoubtedly strengthened our parenting skills.
Trying to fix someone’s emotions while they are “emotional” can occasionally backfire. Sometimes the person may have just wanted to state their “present being” emotion and work through it themselves. Communicate, feel it, and ride the wave when the emotion is good. If the emotion is undesirable, state it, feel it, and work to feel increasingly better.
It’s not always easy to go from a place of despair to blissful happiness. I found insightful information in a book called, Understanding The Power of Emotions. The book outlines 25 levels of human emotions. It showed the benefit of climbing “up” the emotional scale; only “One Degree” can enhance your mood.
Don’t lie to yourself about how you feel about your emotions. Encourage open communication with your kids about how they think and the way they feel. Let your children express emotions! Studies show that correcting a child during an emotional episode can be counterproductive. Evidence states to let the emotion settle. Then, engage in a conversation where you share a current or past scenario where you’ve displayed the same emotion your child showed. Describe your behavior and how you found a healthy way of handling that situation when you reflect on it.
When children see our good and bad emotions and observe how we respond to them, they are more than likely to open up to us about their feelings; it is essential then to LISTEN!! Don’t talk. Listen to their thought process of arriving at their heightened emotional state. Still, “don’t try and fix it.” You’re making progress. When they express an emotion, you can ask how they feel since they’ve calmed down and observed their thoughts. Would they handle it differently? They could take it the same, but we are now giving our children the freedom to start thinking and being consciously aware of their thought processes.
Reflecting on The Power of Now, you can lend advice to children handling their emotions, but only from a place of their understanding and not from us trying to control how they think. Fostering conscious thoughts in our children is the necessary component to shape and form their young minds.
The next time they incur the same situation, they’re more likely to pause, think about the problem, and how they might choose to handle the situation differently, and centered on the right emotional state of mind. As parents, we must always uphold our efforts to foster the correct behaviors we desire our children to demonstrate.